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No guilt guilt

No guilt guilt

 The impossible task of getting a nice still photograph with a 7 year old boy!! 

The impossible task of getting a nice still photograph with a 7 year old boy!! 

I hear so many mom's talk about the guilt that they have felt ever since becoming a mother; guilt about not spending enough time with their children; not being good enough at making things with them; guilt about not handling the child's behaviour in the best way.  Why do women put such pressure on themselves?  If you are doing your best and learning from any mistakes that you may have made along the way then there is really no need to feel guilty. 

I've come to realise as I get older that I am a pretty relaxed but very reflective person and feel extremely lucky to be so.  The only guilt that I feel is the guilt that I don't feel this guilt that other mother's keep mentioning to me.  I don't feel guilty for having a career and going to work.  My son doesn't miss out on stuff it's me that misses out.  I miss him far more than he misses me.  He absolutely loves after school club and if I do happen to pick him up a bit earlier sometimes, thinking I am being a better mom he just moans that he hadn't finished building his Lego or was having fun with his friends.   

We do lots of things as a family at home and out and about and he does love being with us.  For his recent 7th birthday we spent the day together and had a family meal with the grandparents on the evening. He commented that he preferred this to the previous year when we all went to Alton Towers.  It made me realise that you can keep things simple for children.  We don't have to be all singing and dancing at all times, just being happy with them and giving them the attention they want is good enough.

 If you're happy then this will rub off on your children.

If you're happy then this will rub off on your children.

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Everyone has different parenting styles and if it works for your family then that is the right way.  We shouldn't be worrying if we are the best mom ever because if you are happy then your children will be too.  So if you are a mom that feels guilty all the time please stop and think about all of the wonderful things that you do for your children.  Because I bet if you asked them what they enjoy doing the most it will be something involving you.

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